The other day I heard someone talking about what they called a “safe place.” That made me start thinking about my “safe place”. That place I could go to get away from everything and everyone? If I did, where is that place for me in my life?
Have you ever heard someone talk about a place, one of those special places they can go to?
It might be a bench in a park, or a spot by the lake, or special tree that they have gone to since they were a kid. For you it just might be revving up your Harley and just going cruising. It could be a special place, in that special chair in your special room of your home. So the question is do you have one? Do you have “safe place”. If so where is that place of you?
As I began to ponder the question, I came up with two very different places. One of those places for me was outdoors and the other was in my home. The first place I thought of was a golf course. For me, that doesn’t necessarily mean playing a round of golf and keeping score. But it could be hitting balls on the range or chipping and putting on the practice green. This is one of my “safe place(s)”. In this place I am all in, forget about everything, and feel very relaxed.
The other place for me would have to be in the bathtub. I know there are a lot of people who don’t even like a bath and would much rather prefer a shower, but for me it is the jacuzzi bath tub in our master bedroom. Over the years, this “safe place” has been where I have done a lot of relaxing, thinking, praying, and dreaming. It too, is a place where ideas have come to life, and solutions to problems, challenges, situations I faced were conceived. Yes, I like soaked in the tub, feeling the bubbles of the jacuzzi working on my achy joints and pains.
My “safe place(s)” have different purposes for me. But for the most part it is my place to just get away from everything going on and just relax.
Over the years my “safe place” has got me through many difficult, hurtful, disappointing, and challenging situations. But it isn’t always just for the times I felt a loss or like I was losing. No, there are those times of socking in the victory, pondering, and plotting the next steps toward goal, project, or life.
But at times when you are in the midst of those difficult and challenge times, if I am honest, I just want to stay in my “safe place”. It don’t want to leave the course or get out of the bathtub. Why? Because it is my “safe place”.
If I am honest, there have been multiple times in my life when I have felt that way. But I don’t think that I am alone. The time(s) when you just don’t want move from that “safe place”. The time when you just don’t want to get out of the tub. Because you know that when you do leave that place, and get out of the jacuzzi, open the door, and your re-enter the real world.
Do you have a “safe place”?
If, so where is that place and how do you use that space your life?